Life is often complicated, especially when we are in your 20s. They are supposed to be the best years of our lives but they are also the most decisive ones where we make very important decisions.
The months preceding my diagnosis, I was in a really big funk. I had a great family, I thought I was healthy, I had food on my plate every day and I was getting a great education. Despite having all of that, I was feeling like something was missing. I have always been hard on myself and not being where I wanted to be in life made me unhappy. I was focusing so much on what I didn’t have and where I wasn’t in life that I let it take over my life. The problem is I didn’t know how to change that. It seems so simple. Something doesn’t make you happy? Get rid of it. Do you want different results? Change how you do things. But it’s not that simple. To be able to change things I needed to assess my current situation and figure out why I wasn’t happy. I was not great with finances, I wasn’t sure what exactly I was going to do as a career, I was still living with my parents and I had two jobs that did not make me feel accomplished. I was doing things halfway and not putting my total effort into them. I realized the three areas I didn’t feel good about were my finances, my education and my work which are major aspects of someone’s life.
It was my third year at uni and I still wasn’t sure where I was going with it. I thought I had finally found what I liked but still had some doubts. I was frustrated at the thought of not being sure what my calling in life was. I had known kids in high school that already knew exactly what career they wanted to go for. I was frustrated that I didn’t have that. Work wise, I wasn’t enjoying it as much as I should. Work is work, especially when you are young because it is not what you will do for the rest of your life but you should still enjoy what you do. You shouldn’t feel miserable the night before going in because you don’t like what you do. But that is how I felt. Finally, my finances weren’t the best. Actually, they were bad. They were bad because I was only working part-time due to school. I wished I already lived on my own and had my own little home but I couldn’t afford it. I also traveled often as a result of being in a long distance relationship which made me feel like I could never catch up enough to be someone with savings, let alone branch out on my own.
Now that I knew what areas of my life made me unhappy and I wanted to work on, I had to figure out how to fix it. That is where I am in life right now. Working to fix those aspects of my life. Except I have now added a fourth one which is my health. Unfortunately, it took a cancer diagnosis to wake me up and make me do something about it and that is why I am sharing this with you today. Because I don’t want you to wait for some life changing event to turn your life around like I did. Even if it’s just one little thing in your life you are not satisfied with. Do it. After dealing with the news and settling into my new reality, I decided that I was going to do what makes me happy. Starting this blog and my Facebook page has done just that. I will take you through the process of restructuring my life with me and invite you to join. Don’t limit yourself. You are never too young or old to do this.
Knowing that I can maybe make a difference and help somebody gives me a purpose in life and has made me happy. It has taken me many years and life experiences to start becoming the person I want to be and to slowly get to a place of feeling accomplished. I am still doing that right now. I don’t believe we ever stop.